Domestic Violence does not discriminate. It is not gender, race or age specific.
This said, if you or someone you know is in a relationship that is abusive, take action to get out of the situation as quickly as possible.  No, I do not believe it is necessary to "talk" to the abuser about leaving or plans to leave. That can only infuriate and ignite harsher abuse and can become the very thing that stops you from taking action to leave the relationship.

I have posted about the denial, self-denial and denial of others regarding abuse. For some, it is easier to ignore if signs of abuse are obvious; even visible. But abuse is not something to be ashamed of if you are the abused. It is something that requires a safety net and self-preservation action. Confiding in trusted loved ones, friends or even public officials and counselors will help to prepare the abused in removing themselves from the situation.

During the series of emotional abuse, there are rarely visible signs. It is unlike physical abuse where bruises, marks and even broken bones are obvious...emotional suffering is most often hidden from friends and family. The abused can learn to conceal their true emotional disturbances, can learn to create a false lifestyle by acting as if all is well when inside they are becoming weak and insecure.

During the series of physical abuse, the abused becomes dependent on the abuser when in fact, they should escape the abuser. The reason for dependency in some cases is due to the fear or the hope that the abuser will stop if the abused behaves differently, becomes more loving towards the abuser or just leans on the abuser for security. All of which are false security and rarely if ever eliminates the abuse. The abuser begins to feel more powerful and usually will act more violently towards the abused.

Don't be a victim. Step out of the situation and see it for the reality it is. Get out of the situation as soon as you can safely do so and stay away from the abuser to ensure continued safety. In most cases when the abused returns to the abuser after having previously gotten out of the situation, the likeliness of increased abuse and death occurs.

I would like to find more support for all abused; children, women and men alike to ensure they have a safe haven to escape from all manners of abuse.

Domestic violence is something that can be stopped when respect for humanity exists.